Monday, December 11, 2017

Expectation
















Steps To Avoid Not Ending Up Disappointed
Step 1: Don't think the possibilities are endless and dream up cutesy scenarios.
Step 2: Don't ever expect things to be even close to the movies. Ever.
Step 3: Don't expect anything.
Step 4: Expect the worst because then things will be better than your expectations.

I wrote that list in 2011. 
I find humor in my twenty two year old self.
I think it's easier said that done to avoid expectations.
I think we confuse expectation for dreams.
You should never stop dreaming and creating and making goals and making your time count...
However, as Shakespeare famously said, "Expectation is the root of all heartache."
Aint that the truth. Expectation leads to entitlement and down a spiral of heartache. It's unrealistic. It makes people bitter and resentful. 
It's up to you to choose how you view this life, what you think, and the choices you make.
I am happy when I am helping others, when I am meeting new people or spending time with the ones who've always been there for me and forever will be, when I'm writing, when I'm learning, when I'm loving, when I burst out laughing, when I discover a new song [especially if it's Taylor Swift], when I go to church or the temple, when I strengthen my spirituality, when I finish a good book, when I wake up and feel relaxed. I'm overwhelmed with gratitude to have friends, family, pets, the Atonement, the gospel, a job, a home, food, education, hot water when I shower. I love being able to live and see the seasons change, to have gifts at Christmas and my birthday, to travel sometimes, to have limitless opportunities. I'm flattered when people smile at me, are kind, and compliment me. There are countless things that make life beautiful and good and I will always think about them more than all the bad things that have happened to me. 
We do not have time to be sad every day or ungrateful at unmet expectations.
We cannot just expect to be happy or expect love to come into our lives or expect anything.
We have to make things happen. I believe in a mixture of fate, destiny, and choice. 
We have every reason in the world to be happy. 
Yes there is evil in this world. There are tragedies all around us constantly. People war with others and themselves. 
We have to choose to get by reliving the blissful adventurous, silly, heart wrenching, magical memories we made in the past until we can be together and create even more enchanting, breathtaking, unforgettable memories in the present to make our own version of heaven on earth. The only things worth fighting for are love, freedom, and happiness. 
Whatever you are looking for with all of your heart is looking for you too. Patience. 
The three W's that Brie and I came up with back when we were in high school: Waiting + Wishing + Working=Worth IT.
The future turns out to be something that you make instead of find.





<W/L3 [with love],
C

Saturday, December 9, 2017

My Time Turner

Thursday December 9, 2010
We're traveling back in time seven years...
"Ah the roommate drama is driving me crazy! Sunday, McHale, Jordan, and I were in my room talking when Rian just walks in and starts going ballistic using language like an episode of Jersey Shore. It was madness. She was all mad over McHale supposedly hiding toilet paper (since they share a bathroom) and Hannah and I share one. Rian was screaming profanities at McHale and she went through McHale's stuff. I find that entirely inappropriate. The yelling ended with Rian telling McHale to "f***" off and flipping her off.
I was in such shock that I was stunned and couldn't speak. But no one treats my sister like that or yells at her in that manner. It was wrong. I won/t stand for it. You don't do that to anyone. It's a form of bullying in my opinion. She verbally assaulted McHale. Now McHale and Rian have been fighting and have disliked each other from the beginning when we first moved in. I am a peacemaker. I love Rian. I have stayed neutral and been friends with both of them. I believe in kindness and loving one another and forgiveness like the Savior.
However, Rian crossed the line. She asked me to talk and if we were still friends or if I was just going to ignore her forever. She apologized to me and admitted that she took it too far and was in the wrong for her approach. I told her she needed to apologize to my sisters. She agreed to say sorry to Jordan, but not McHale because of their prior conflicts and negative past. Despite that, I told her I firmly believe she owes McHale an apology for the episode she caused and for verbally harassing her. I don't think she'll ever swallow her pride and do so, I forgive Rian of course, but I want her to tell McHale she is sorry for her tone, approach, and insults. 
I just want peace and love and happiness. 
Rian needs to respect McHale.
McHale needs to respect Rian.
I'm still a little shaken up for how Rian treated my sister (especially the way she did it so publicly!) I'll ALWAYS stand up for McHale, my sisters, and my family. Hannah is taking Rian's side. [I can't believe there are sides! Like are we back in high school?! I thought this was college and adulting.] Ugh I hate the whole sides thing. It's juvenile and dramatic. I take no sides. I'm just standing up for what's right and asking for one simple apology where it's deserved. Three simple words that hold an immensity of power.
 Hannah & I
(Side note, I miss my Hannah Banana)

 Roommates past: Bowling-Getting-To-Know-Each-Other-At-The-ISU-Sub
Our bowling names: Rian=Meredith, Charley=Izzie, Hannah=Calliope, & McHale=Cristina...
Are you sensing a love of Grey's Anatomy?!

McHale & Rian before everything changed for the worst :(
In other awkwardness in the life of Charley, Bo (ex-boyfriend) came by my apartment tonight. It was the first time I've seen him since we broke up. He was dropping off my mom's broken lamp piece that he fixed from his furniture store. He made small talk for about ten minutes, working the weather, our families, the holiday season, etc as he stood in the freezing cold. I didn't invite him in because I didn't want to talk/hang out with him after what he did to me. You could tell he wanted to though. His eyes begged for an unspoken invitation into my apartment and my heart. 
I've moved on.
I didn't hide the fact that I'm over him and had no interest in talking to him whatsoever. He could tell because he kept stopping and shaking his head and interrupting me, saying: "You hate me! You totally hate me!"
to which I rightfully denied because it's not true. As I told him, I don't hate him. I don't hate anyone. But I'm definitely not his biggest fan. I don't consider him a friend either. (I didn't mention the last sentence to him or this one out loud). He's just an associate. I don't like him like him or dislike him or even like him, we're just neutral, normal, polite. It's forced.
Well he finally ran out of small talk and started to say how sorry he was about us, and I immediately stopped him in his tracks. I made it clear that it's fine! It's great. I've moved on and am happy, never better. Then he admitted that he's going to be in town in a week or so for a game his sister is cheering for and wants to see me. He asked me if I would go to dinner with him too. 
(I'm thinking to myself seriously? Seriously? SERIOUSLY?!--a Grey's Anatomy Meredith Grey seriously, obviously). I responded maybe [which is a polite NO in my book]. He looked defeated and made a promise to call me and then reached out and pulled me into his arms in an embrace and hugged me. Out of habit--and just being a sucker for hugs in general--I hugged him back; a goodbye forever (in my mind) hug and that was that.
All I can say is that my mom sure better love me for getting that lamp piece back ;)

Bo & I reconnected in January 2011. We went to dinner and attended an Andy Grammer concert in SLC. Sad fact: Andy asked me out on a date after the show but Bo had to rush home to (get this) meet up with another girl! I'll always have that fun fact that Andy Grammer wanted to take me on a date.

I also met Rachel Platten (famous for her Fight Song). Bo wasn't too happy about me staying behind after the concert to meet her and Andy but while he sulked in the car, I met them. Rachel was the sweetest thing. She remembered my name and we talked for a good twenty minutes.

"Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you're pretty sexy and you're taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with."

"Everyone wants to live a fairytale. Everyone wants a perfect life, but what makes up a fairytale? Is it truly the pain and the strife? What would a fairytale be without a damsel in distress? She would never meet prince charming, never dance in her dress. You see you can't have a story with just a beginning and an end. You have to be broken to be able to mend. Without the dark, there'd be no light. Without wrong, there'd be no right. Every story can have a perfect ending. You just have to wait for it."
-Melissa Draper

"You saved me in every way a person could be saved."
-Titanic

"So here I am in my new apartment it's so much colder than I thought it would be. So I tuck myself in and turn my night light on. Wish I'd never grown up. I wish I'd never grown up. I wish I'd never grown up."
-Taylor Swift

"Life isn't as magical here, and you're not the only one who feels like you don't belong or that it's better somewhere else. But there are things worth living, and the best part is your never know what's going to happen next."
-O. R. Melling

"To love somebody is not just a strong feeling--it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I can judge that it's love and will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision."

"I am a princess. All girls are. Even if they live in tiny old attics. Even if they dress in rags, even if they aren't pretty, or small, or young. They're still princesses. All of us."
-A Little Princess

"It's time to take a risk, sweetheart."

"The only thing standing in between you and me is reality."

"Isn't it painful? For someone to make you feel special, yet he already has his special someone."

"Love me like the world is ending."

"It's sweet when someone knows every detail about you. Not because you keep on reminding them, but because they pay attention.
"By the way, I'm wearing the smile you gave me."

"False
          Evidence   
         Appearing
    Real."  

"and there will come a time, you'll see, with no more tears and love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears."

"Make it count. Meet me at the clock!"
-Jack Dawson

"I miss the days where we would play outside for hours and never get bored. I miss the innocence of being just a kid."

"Tell me, princess, how when did you last let your heart decide?"
-Aladdin

"If God is with you, who can be against you?"
<W/L3 [with love]
C


Friday December 9, 2012
We're traveling back in time five years...
"Two souls are sometimes created together and in love before they're born."
-F. Scott Fitzgerald

"You're allowed to scream, you're allowed to cry, but you do not give up."

Today was such fun. It always is when you combine TyBrie and CiCi! Brie's parents, Gene and Debbie, drove us all up to Idaho Falls for the day as a Christmas/friend/birthday adventure. The first stop was to the falls at this little park so I could take Christmas pictures of TyBrie. My wish for snow last night equaled a light dusting of snow. It was freezing cold outside and, as you can see, I only wore an over-sized sweater and no coat. Real friends take beautiful pictures of their friends even if they almost get frostbite in the process! I take cute photos like this one where TyBrie are holding up candy canes in the shape of a heart and kissing in the background. Presh.
Debbie took the pics of all three of us and the one of Brie and me. I want a Polaroid camera like theirs! Well we decided to get out of the cold so we went to lunch at a local restaurant The Snakebite Restaurant (which is INCREDIBLE-I give it 5 out of 5 stars). Brie did lost of research to try and find the best burger in Idaho Falls and it lead to Snakebite. It really was the best! I loved the atmosphere and the food was unbelievably good. Amazing! If you haven't been there, I highly recommend it.
After lunch, we went to this free display at the Museum of Idaho about an old fashioned Christmas. It wasn't as impressive as I thought it would be but was still fun to look around at all the nativity displays from all over the world and other old Christmas artifacts.
When we were done at the museum, we did some shopping. We went to Target and the mall. I bought this Twilight Breaking Dawn replica engagement ring like Bella's ring from Edward in the movie. You know I'm not a Twihard-vampire-obsessed-Edward Cullen-loving-crazy fan, but I just absolutely love the ring. It's stunning. I remember being completely in love with that ring when I read Eclipse before I even saw the movies. It was such a big deal. The ring meant so much to Edward because it was vintage and belonged to his dead mother. The ring and proposal were my favorite part. So when I saw it, I had to buy it even though it doesn't really fit my tiny fingers.
Can I just say I could spend hours, days, months, and years in Barnes and Noble? I just love books and reading. I couldn't survive without the written word. Reading and writing are as essential to me as oxygen. It's always a struggle trying to choose which books to buy when there are so many choices. Today I came home with Middle Ground (the sequel to Awaken) by Katie Kacvinsky, Everyday by David Levithan, and Between by Jessica Warman. I convinced Brie to get The Fault in our Stars by John Green! That's exciting. That book blows my mind. It's amazing. She will love it like I do.
What a lovely day. A day filled with your friends and books is one of the best kind there is.
TyBrie (n.) True Love.

 Maybe I was young and naive got lost in your eyes never really had a chance.

Kisses are the best. Brie, CiCi, & Mat. I miss those days so much that my heart literally hurts.

Cha-cha-charley circa 2012

The best of friends; sisters by choice.

I don't know about you, but I'm feeling twenty two. 
[actually I was 23]

Magic moments when you're forever Young.

<W/L3 [with love],
C

Friday December 9, 2016
We're traveling back in time one year...
There are so many things that amaze me such as life in general--the fragility, the possibility, the wonder, the beauty, the potential--that to list them all would be an impossible task like counting every single star in the galaxy. I have found love again that defies the past, the imperfections, the loneliness, the unfairness, the mistakes, the heartbreak, the hate, hurt, and negativity of others around me. Trying to destroy me and rob me of all the hope, happiness, love, light, progress, and positivity inside of me, the fears that haunt me, and the excruciating, soul crippling, unbearable physical and emotional pain that was killing me second by waking second.
I am in love with myself--the girl I've become and the girl I'm becoming. I love me. I love life. I love my life, this new blank canvas of a life I am living, building, and creating day by day, moment by moment. Depression blinds you to the beauty of life and the miracle and purpose of it all. It makes you forget how much you love life--even when it's bad, sad, confusing, and downright tragic.
Apathy takes over your heart. Fear hijacks your mind. Despair and misery slowly suck the life right out of you. This is just a basic description of what depression feels like. My point is with the gospel, meditation, treatment centers, positive coping skills, and group counseling, time, and support from fellow patients (now friends), family, and friends, I've conquered my depression, chose and found happiness, and took my life back.
Hope is always there and waiting to be found.
You may be lost, but hope never is.
The key is faith. Fear is the opposite of faith. Sometimes we hide behind our fears because we're afraid of change or failure. The truth is that faith is stronger than the whole world's fear combined. If we have faith, we need not fear. I choose faith. I have faith. I read an incredible, faith building talk on faith from the most recent General Conference by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf.
He said: "Faith is trust--trust that God sees what we cannot and that He knows what we do not. The purpose of faith is not to change God's will but to empower us to act on God's will. In the end everything will make sense. Faith comes to the humble, the diligent, the enduring. It comes to those who pay the price of faithfulness."
Recently, I was struggling with some interpersonal conflict and it cast a dark shadow over just about everything. I was letting it get the best of me. I quickly reminded myself to not let actions of others effect my actions and mood. I exercised love, faith, and forgiveness and resolved the issue. All is well.
I am SO excited! I have a job interview at LDS Hospital on Tuesday! I'd be working grave shifts (6pm to 6am) in the ED! I hope and pray I get the job.
New me; new life.
Haylee, Megan, Annie, & I enjoying a coffee/smoothie date.

Back: Alexa, Allison, me, Haylee, & Emily
Front: Krystal, Megan, & Courtney
"Love, at every opportunity you are given to love. Be less afraid. Embrace each day (none are promised). Cry when you need to, it'll make you feel better. You were put on this planet to feel every feeling you could, do that. Everything works out in the end. I promise."
In Memory of the loveliest of them all: Emily Schaeffer <3

Nadia, Alexa, me, Annie, Haylee, & Natalia
"She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future."
-Proverbs 31:25

THE BEST PEOPLE IN LIFE ARE FREE.

Girls Night @ San Moritz.
Megan, Charley, Natalia, Annie, Haylee, Nadia, Carlie, & [in front] Alexa
aka the baddest badass princesses in existence.

A strong friendship doesn't need daily conversation or being together. As long as the relationship lives in the heart, true friends never part.

#becausewereworthit

Beautiful girls. Beautiful friends. Beautiful life. 
Oh, and Carlos and the creeper clown haha.

Grown Up Girl Bonding Time brought to you by Charley & Addie.

We were created to create.

<W/L3
C
P.S. Happy 29th birthday to the amazing-in-every-way Tyson! On Dec 5th, Brie turned 28, and I am 27 as of October. Where does the time go?!? #foreveryoung
The T-Rex to my Charmander.
Tyson is honestly THE BEST gentleman I know.
I am going to share a memory with you lovelies that is very personal, raw, and sacred which only a few know about...
It involves the only time that I have ever seen Tyson cry... same with Brie.
There were red flags when Ryan and I were dating (for those of you just tuning in, Ryan is my ex husband)... I was all rose colored glasses, thinking I found my prince, and wrapped up in excitement planning an eternal marriage.
Well about a week before I was to go to the temple in May 2013 to receive my endowments, Tyson and Brie invited me to their home.
They had very sullen, serious expressions on their faces that deeply troubled me.
It felt like someone died.
The air was heavy with deafening silence.
When they asked me to take a seat, I knew something was wrong.
Tyson began crying. Real crying. The soul wrenching, agonizing, loving kind of tears. 
Brie started to cry too.
Tyson testified to me that I could not marry Ryan.
He said he'd never felt so strongly about anything in his entire life that he did the prompting that I shouldn't marry Ryan.
Brie felt the same way.
My heart sunk. It shattered. It was like the dreamland I have been living in came crashing down, but the thing was I knew it was a dream all along and I was just praying that it would never end.
I had always had a feeling that Ryan and I shouldn't get married... that we were moving too fast. I mean we only dated for a month before he proposed to me on February 1, 2013. Then we were married on May 11, 2013. 
When I suggested to Ryan that we prolong our engagement, he was infuriated and claimed that if we were made for each other/soulmates/in love then we shouldn't wait. He made me believe that the "adversary" was doing everything in his power to pull us apart including poisoning my family and friends. Ryan insisted that if we waited any longer, we wouldn't work. We had to get married when we planned or we wouldn't get married at all. My hopeless romantic heart full of love for my fiance wanted to believe it so badly that I believed the lie even though I knew the truth. I thought that love could conquer all.
Seeing Tyson cry made me cry. It was powerful. It was overwhelming. It was spiritual.
He suggested that Brie, himself, and me join hands and pray about it.
We prayed that I would know whether or not I should marry Ryan.
And we all felt the undeniable answer that I didn't want to hear: a resounding, irrevocable NO.
Immediately after Tyson said the prayer, my phone rang. 
It was my grandma. She and I hadn't talked in weeks.
I answered and her frantic words were: "Charley, you CANNOT marry Ryan! Do not marry Ryan baby girl."
The answer to all of our prayers.
I was so lost and felt like everything I knew was turned upside down and the dream was becoming a nightmare.
I couldn't deny the message Heavenly Father was sending me though.
So I called my mom who basically paid for the entire wedding.
Engagement pictures had been taken by this time, invitations had been sent, endowments in the temple were in a matter of days, and then a week later I would be sealed to Ryan for time and all eternity in the SLC Temple which was reserved. The honeymoon, photographer, hotels, dinner, reception, dress, and everything had been paid for.
My mom was not happy with this revelation.
I don't want to paint her out to be a bad mom or horrible person... but she told me it was too late to back out of it because of all the money spent that she'd never get back and all the invitations had been sent so there was no way I wasn't going to marry Ryan. 
The rest was history.
Ryan and I were married, sealed for time and all eternity, in the Salt Lake City Temple (my favorite temple), a castle, on Saturday May 11, 2013 in front of all our family and friends and God.
Tyson and Aubrey weren't going to come but did to support me.
Tyson was my witness and one of Ryan's groomsmen. 
Aubrey was my maid of honor.
The moral of the story: ALWAYS TRUST GOD. He has a plan for us that is perfect and full of happiness beyond comprehension. He knows what is best for us. In today's world with everyone having opinions about everything and all the noise and need for approval and love, it's easy to think what we want is right or to base decisions on people who won't have to deal with the consequences of our actions and choices. 
John Green wasn't kidding when he said "Some infinities are bigger than other infinities."
I never imagined eternity meant two years for Ryan and I and our so called eternal marriage.
Spoiler alert: We didn't work out. My marriage was plagued with abuse in every sense of the word, control, unrighteous dominion, selfishness, and adultery. Our divorced was finalized in September of 2015. 
I may have "lost" Ryan but I found myself and somehow that was everything [and more].
The details, the story, are for another time...
Back to Tyson...
He and Brie moved about five hours away last month. I miss them so bad sometimes that it hurts. I am anxiously awaiting our reunion in a few sweet weeks. I am forever grateful for our forever friendship. We stay in touch through e-mails and texts and that is what makes me thankful for technology. We've been friends for nearly eight years and everyone has been enchanting and beautiful. Thank you Tyson for being a HUGE part of giving me the courage to escape an abusive marriage that would've killed me in the end and providing me a safe haven for the few weeks after we split up. Thanks for always being the patience to my stubbornness. Thank you for being THEE best husband to MY best friend and father to my sweet nephew Jude. In the words of MCS (Motion City Soundtrack): "I want to thank you for being a part of my forget-me-nots and marigolds. And all the things that don't get old." I love you. What If It Was You will always be our song.
Happy birthday. I have (and will) always love you. 30 never looked better on anyone. I am glad you were born. I wish I could be with my forever Youngs to celebrate your birthday and Brie's but we shall see each other before we know it. Here's to drinking mate while settling Catan, the best hugs and advice, forgiveness, tears of happiness and sorrow shared, being the witness at my wedding even though you were against it (and right), the countless blessings you've given me, car rides, music, adventures, and light. Here's to a forever friendship, unconditional love, endless happiness, and the knowledge that with friends like us in this ever changing world, we are constant and can overcome any adversity.

Brie && CiCi
Established best friends since 1994 when she was 5 and I was 4.
To a once in a lifetime friendship.
Brie, happy 29th belated birthday. You are stunningly beautiful in every possible way.
You inspire me more than almost anyone. You are my person. The Haley to my Peyton. My first and forever best friend. Thank you for always giving me the best advice and not giving up on me even when I've ceased to believe in myself. Thanks for drying my tears in high school when boys were jerks. Thanks for taking me to the Oregon Coast and driving to Seattle to see Jesse McCartney. For making all of our moments worth remembering. Thank you for unconditional love without limits. Here's to Colored Houses, journaling, adventures, millions of inside jokes, notes, tears of sadness and joy, and always being there for me no matter what. To my older sister by choice. Here's to infinity and beyond. BFFS. I love love love you. I love you my darling friend. You are proof that magic is real and not just make believe in Harry Potter




Thursday, December 7, 2017

It's Not Going To Be Easy. It's Going To Be Really Hard. Because I Want You...

Don't give up on love because you still haven't met me yet.

Everything has changed and yet, I am more me than I've ever been.

 I'm in love with Ryan Gosling. Watching The Notebook. Does love like that really exist?

"The lights are waiting
with the music in the streets.
The love is coming."
-Tyler Knott Gregson

"Everybody's dying to be somebody else, but I'll live my life if it kills me."
-e.e. cummings

Everything's a risk. Not doing anything is a risk. It's up to you.

SPOILER ALERT: Love is worth everything. Everything.

Never accept less than you deserve. Hold out for someone who treats you like gold, believes in you on good days and bad days, and who is your best friend.

Your heart knows things your mind can't explain.

Have you ever noticed how different people treat their hearts?
There are those who drag their hearts behind them in the dirt, those who only let their hearts out on special occasions and of course, those who force themselves into believing that they have no heart at all.
But I will always have an affinity with the people who toss their hearts into the mess of someone else's DNA. They tell me I am a romantic, but it's only because I believe in love. And the realization that the lines and edges of our bodies or the sudden stop of our hearts, are not where we end--in love, we are e n d l e s s.
A year ago today 12/7/11; I wrote this about love... six years ago
"I'm 22 and love is all I want. My heart is bursting at the seams. Why do I want love, to fall in love and be in love forever? I wish more than anything that someone would just rip my stupid hopeless, hopeless romantic heart out and replace it with one that just didn't care about love, didn't feel missing without it, didn't drive me insane. Why do I want the one thing I can't have? No matter how hard I try I can't get over it or accept it's not ever going to happen, at least not for me, and is a mere dream. They say all you need is love. I'm hard wired for it and it will be my downfall."

Lets come back to reality; 12/7/17
"I know what it's like to miss someone. I know what it's like to miss the past, to wish you could go back in time. But you need to realize that you can't. You can't miss it anymore, because you can't go back. You can only go forward. You need to stop building the memories up in your head, and see them for what they really were. A few great days surrounded by a lot of terrible, abusive, heartbreaking ones. And you need to realize that you deserve someone who makes everyday great, loves you unconditionally, and would NEVER harm you in any way. As a single woman (or man), you can only wonder about the man (or woman) you will someday marry. But God knows exactly who he (or she) is. He designed everything about them from their hair color to the smallest quirks of their character. God knows exactly what challenges you will face in your life together, every romantic moment you'll enjoy together and every fight you'll struggle through. Just think how amazing our dreams would be if instead of making them up for ourselves, we asked God to give us a glimpse of His dreams for us. Those dreams have all the benefit of being true and all the certainty of being fulfilled.
I understand why we get stuck sometimes. TRUST ME. Hearts are stubborn. They sink their hooks into bad habits that look like people and dreams. But look at how much we give of ourselves. Our most precious gifts handed over to another who may, or may not, value them as much as we do. Have you ever heard someone fall asleep? Or watched someone break down? There's so few people in this world that can completely forgive you. The people that get you to believe it's actually all worth it, and don't flinch when you look them in the eyes, never waver, and make a bed more comfortable. Who tell you you're the most beautiful human in existence and you know with every fiber of your being they mean it. So when you find them, you, in a way, lose yourself. But know this: you will always be too much for anyone not enough. Somewhere out there is someone who'll bring pieces of you home. And you'll realize that losing everything is the only way to figure out what's worth finding.
Until then, love yourself! Relentless... imperfections and all. Because you're perfectly you. You are worth it and worthy. You deserve love. And it starts from within. Love your life. Today. This moment. Now. You're whole right now. 
They expect you to quit by now, but you haven't. I haven't. We won't quit either. We have won too many trials to fall now. Many of our experience resemble war, but our responses resemble God's favor. Whenever you start to feel weak, remember what you have surpassed, and it will essentially empower you all over again. That's the blessing in battles: you can let them overcome you or you can make them strengthen you.
Wait for the one who betters you. Somebody you inspires you and encourages you in love and in life, who pushes you towards your dreams and goals you'd otherwise ignore, who selflessly sacrifices their time to help you become a more courageous well rounded and happy human being. That's sacred. That's love."

 I appreciate the things that are molding me into a better woman. Even if it hurts me or I don't understand it. I need it for who I'm becoming.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.

I have put up my walls and I have turned off the lights. I am hiding. I crave for you to find me amongst the darkness; if you can do that then you have found the real me.

... that's the most beautiful thing in the world when two people become fluent in choosing one another.

Lets spend the years together, finding things to love and eating good food. Lets get married and dance to our favorite songs, maybe you will laugh at how badly I dance yet you will love the willingness I have to learn. Lets get groceries, ride bikes and just enjoy the simple things in life. Lets be spontaneous and put all our belongings in the car and drive to the coast. Lets be surprised by the joy of children and live to raise them right. Lets live each day, falling in love all over again. Lets be together in our old age, laughing at the frustration of our youth. Lets kiss each other good night so that we do not forget the power of a kiss.

"You are the poem I never knew how to write and this life is the story I have always wanted to tell."
-Tyler Knott Gregson

There will be dozens of people who will take your breath away but the one who reminds you to breathe is the one you should keep.

 "If they don't like you for being yourself, be yourself even more."
-Taylor Swift

You alone are the greatest story ever told.

Love always, lovelies.
XX,
C

P.S. MAJOR shout out to some of the most beautiful women I've had the honor of meeting who made today's photoshoot possible and magical and lovely.
First, my make up artist Vanessa... Find her on Instagram: @glamfab_nessa
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The extraordinary, breathtakingly stunning, angel Keitra Jane. She looks like Taylor Swift's identical twin but prettier... and that's saying something! She is as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside and working with her this evening was pure magic.
Find Keitra's photography business on Instagram: @xoxokeitrajane